You’ve been together long enough that the definition of romance has evolved--it’s no longer flowers and all-day sex, but extended vacations with the in-laws, getting your car washed, and rewatching The Office in matching sweatpants and thick socks.
You’ve done the flowers and the jewelry and the fancy restaurants, so now what? How do you celebrate a sappy-specific-kind-of-romance-filled holiday with the person you’ve evolved past it with?
Shared collectible - $0+
Over the years, surely you've developed a hoarding habit of some kind of cool or weird thing--Nicole and her beau collect playing cards (the weirder the better) and Renee and her husband collect watches. From tchotchkes to luxury items, it has a special meaning to the two of you, and makes a perfect gift on this day of love!
Date night, some other night -$50+
Going out on Valentine's Day is shitshow. You need reservations six months in advance, the restaurants are crowded and the kitchens are slammed. Consider opting out of it--stay in and eat your nice sensible sheet pan dinner, and make reservations for another night!
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A weekend away - $300+
Go big on Vday and whisk your partner away. Go to the coast if it's a few hours drive, head into the mountains, stay in a high rise downtown. Leave the kids and the pets and turn this day of romance into two or three.